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Types of Soulmates and Succeeding with Them All

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Types of Soulmates and Succeeding with Them All

It is said “when the student is ready, the teacher appears.” This principle most broadly applies to the universal soul, the Prophetﷺ, who represents the potential for a complete and Godly character in us all.

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outlines how to identify soulmates based on the Quran and examples from our Prophetﷺ . Here, we dive into distinguishing those relationships, leveraging reciprocity and maintaining your own, original soul.

Like Hajj, the “right time, right place” factor and the role soulmates play in evolving us, makes the allure of soulmates hard to overstate. Whether it’s the “aha” moments they bring, freedom from expectations, or the love found through them, success in soul-level partnerships is not only desirable but the definition of success for some.

Although broadly categorized as “platonic love,” or nonphysically based [1], sensual relationships are soulmate’s most emphasized form. Like most things, ‘amor platonicus,’ titled in the fifteenth century by Marsilio Ficino [2], existed on a conceptual level in early Egypt in the story of Isis and Osiris [3]. This ancient Egyptian story parallels the Quran’s depictions of Cain and Abel.

In all this, Islam tends to be the last thing that comes to mind when the average Joe thinks of love or soulmates. The afterword for  expanded that perception. This matters because love unifies. Soulmates compliment one another in a bond that stands all limitations including space and time.

Caring for What’s Yours

The Prophetﷺ, God bless his soul and grant him peace, named everything from his camels to his drinking cup. Imam Fode elaborates on an understanding that everything from plants to mountains have souls [4]. As khalifahs (inheritors), our role is to recognize and care for creation in our possession – both animate and inanimate. It is a sign of gratitude that will yield them lasting and valuable to this life and the next. This is success.

Soul-Level Connection

The most important soul-level agreement is that of your own, where love is the master key. Without that, it may be a challenge to connect with any other. Those most commonly considered when discussing these relationships in the context of Quran and Prophetic Tradition can be broken down into three categories:

1) Soul companion(s)- those whose lives and purpose cross paths undeniably. For Moses these were his bani, or tribe. Jesus had 12 close companions known as hawariyoon, most them fishermen. God states about them in Quran:

Then when Jesus came to know of their disbelief, he said, ‘Who will be my helpers in God’s cause?’ Al-Hawariyoon (the disciples) replied, ‘We are the helpers of God; we believe in God, so bear witness that we submit to God.’”

[The Quran, 3:52]

The Arabic translates to ‘those of White clothes’, signifying purify. The root hawrya has origins in Ethiopian meaning “to go,” signifying one that is sent [5]. They illustrate to us that the best soul companions are those who support us in calling to oneness.

It’s beautiful to note, whereas Moses had a clan-like family, Jesus had more of what we’d call “the homies” today. The completion, our Prophetﷺ, called his associates sahaba, literally just companions or friends.

May God be pleased with them all.

2) Twin flame(s)- closely tied with the reality of Bayt al Mamur and zilla, those whose souls are identical beyond mere serendipity. Not to be confused with codependency or mere passionately alike souls, this relationship is harder to put into words, as when it’s recognized, it’s undeniable. In other words, those who know, know.

3) Life Partner(s)- those soulmates, twin flames, or a combination thereof who were written to share this life as romantic partners, most often procreating. A prominent example exists in Sayyidina Khadijah, who had more than business to offer The Prophetﷺ with 2 previous marriages under her belt… the qualifications for her kunya (nickname) “al Kubara” (The Great).

She was confident and assertive, clear in her proposal to him. She had a strong internal compass; even if she didn’t know better was coming, she accepted union and children before him. She still had standards as she rejected many eligible bachelors before The Prophetﷺ. The majority say she married him at 40 but some opinions say she was 25 as he was. Sayyidina Khadijah was what we would call a billionaire today. She saw Truth through a test most fail: wealth.

Accepting, open-minded, and the first believer, she would hike long distances to take food to him in his contemplation cave….sometimes with the kids. She also went with a cold bed weeks at a time. The warmth when he returned lit up the city.

Beyond building a home together, she WAS a home for the beloved of Allah. She gifted his only blood lineage through Sayyidina Fatima. The list goes on.

The Prophet ﷺ reminisced: “she believed in me when no one else did.” Try to bring the feeling they shared to heart when he came to her, disturbed, after the first revelation saying “zamilooni,” (cover me). Not knowing details of their home life, together, it forces the heart to fill in the blanks. Long after her passing the Prophet yearned for her in a way that put the most appealing wives to jealousy over “that elderly woman” [6]. Learning and embodying details about her and the intricacies of their interactions make for lasting bonds. May everyone taste something of this Divine love.

Achieving Reciprocity in Soul-Agreements

Aman asked the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ: “When will the Hour be established O Allah’s Messenger?” The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ asked, “What have you prepared for it?” The man said, “I haven’t prepared for it much of prayers or fast or alms, but I love Allah and His Messenger.” The Prophet ﷺ said, “You will be with those who you love.”

In another narration, a man came up to the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and asked “What do you say of a man who loves a certain group of people but cannot be of them?” To this, Muhammad ﷺ replied; “A person will be with whom they love” [6].

Because there’s no difference between present and future tense in Arabic, this also extends to mean “the person is with the one they love.” This may be a hard truth pill to swallow for the materially focused. For people of the heart, it’s a done deal.

Affirming this means releasing the need to control outcomes because there is a faith that regardless of circumstance, means a reunion is bound to happen. There isn’t worry over the other’s destination and doings (read: compulsion). With a focus on bettering our own soul and seeking the pleasure of Allah and/or paradise, we’ll inevitably be joined with our soul partner(s).

May The Divine make us among the party of the beloved, our Prophet ﷺ.

Releasing Blockages

Harmonizing relationships without losing yourself requires discipline and focus on our own soul. It’s worthwhile to note potential blockages only because in a world dominated by cause-and-effect, variety keeps us interested. We may be emotionally unavailable, co-dependently inclined, meet too soon, confuse lust with love, project or take on others’ emotions and thoughts and/or be written as soul friends but not life partners, etc. The best way to stay in tune with the flow of your life trajectory is:

1) Set clear, firm intentions on The Divine. Focusing on the limitless releases limitations painlessly. By frequently staying conscious of the expansive nature of The Creator, we become receptive to other, minor intents, and stop illusions of “not enough, too late,” etc.

2) Release expectations.

No compulsion is there in religion. Uprightness has already been clarified from error.”

[The Quran, 2:256]

This happens naturally in step one; however, it is helpful to revisit on its own. We release expectations by identifying them whenever we feel tension over something that “should be,” and replacing the “should” with thankfulness for what is and even the possibility of more.

3) Listen to kashf (intuition). It is better to have no thought through meditation than to clutter the mind with a forced “positivity.” Praying, making duaa etc are useful regardless; however, the speed they occur is more noticeable when receptive to our inner wisdom.

4) Be aware of tawfiq (synchronicity). Be careful of dismissing anything as “by chance.” There is no need to make a hoopla of it, just say alhamdulillah for any alignments in your intent and others as they occur. It is especially recommended to write them down from dreams and in waking states because sometimes the synchronicity may not become noticeable except over long periods of time.

The Universal Soul

For seekers hoping to advance along the spiritual path, a guide/teacher can be considered a soulmate in the sense that their souls have been bound by bayah in the previous life and often this one. It is said “when the student is ready, the teacher appears.” This principle most broadly applies to the universal soul, the Prophetﷺ, who represents the potential for a complete and Godly character in us all. Regardless of the type, we all have soulmates in our lives; even a single soulmate in a lifetime is a blessing worth nine.


[1] “Platonic- purely spiritual; free from sensual desire, especially in a relationship between two persons of the opposite sex.” 

[2] De Amore, Les Belles Lettres, 2012.

[3] Albany Institute file:///C:/Users/M/Downloads/TheStoryofIsisandOsirisText%20of%20Story.pdf.

[4] Rejuvenation of The Soul.

[5] Selections from the Ḳur-án, Commonly Called, in England, the Koran: With With an Interwoven Commentary edited by Edward William Lane, George Sale, J. Madden, 1843.

[6] “The Prophet’s next beloved, A’ishah, recorded: ‘Although I had never met Khadijah, I was never more jealous of anyone than her.’ Once, when Khadijah’s sister Halah came to visit the Prophet (P.B.U.H), and called from outside for permission to enter, he trembled, being reminded of Khadijah, for the two sisters had very similar voices. ‘It must be Halah,’ he said. A’ishah said, ‘Why do you keep thinking of that elderly woman who has been dead for so long, when Allah has given you such good wives?’ ‘No, no, no,’ the Prophet (P.B.U.H) answered, ‘I was given no finer wife than she- She believed in me when no one else believed me; when they denied me she became a Muslim; when no-one would help me, she was my help. I had my children from her.’ And he asserted, ‘Allah gave me my love for her.’ After that, A’ishah resolved never to take hurt from Khadijah’s memory. He grieved for her for a long time, and was eventually persuaded to take other wives by his friends, and especially by his aunt Khawlah, who was distressed to see him so sad and lonely” (The Muslim Marriage Guide, Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood).

[7] Sahih al-Bukhari 6168 Book 78, Hadith 194.

Maryam Miller (@soulmatesis) is the author of  a satire about soulmates.

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Your support will help us achieve this goal, and enable us to produce more original content. Your support can help us in the fight against Islamophobia, by building a powerful platform for young Muslims who can share their ideas, experiences and opinions for a better future.

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It is said “when the student is ready, the teacher appears.” This principle most broadly applies to the universal soul, the Prophetﷺ, who represents the potential for a complete and Godly character in us all.

outlines how to identify soulmates based on the Quran and examples from our Prophetﷺ . Here, we dive into distinguishing those relationships, leveraging reciprocity and maintaining your own, original soul.

Like Hajj, the “right time, right place” factor and the role soulmates play in evolving us, makes the allure of soulmates hard to overstate. Whether it’s the “aha” moments they bring, freedom from expectations, or the love found through them, success in soul-level partnerships is not only desirable but the definition of success for some.

Although broadly categorized as “platonic love,” or nonphysically based [1], sensual relationships are soulmate’s most emphasized form. Like most things, ‘amor platonicus,’ titled in the fifteenth century by Marsilio Ficino [2], existed on a conceptual level in early Egypt in the story of Isis and Osiris [3]. This ancient Egyptian story parallels the Quran’s depictions of Cain and Abel.

In all this, Islam tends to be the last thing that comes to mind when the average Joe thinks of love or soulmates. The afterword for  expanded that perception. This matters because love unifies. Soulmates compliment one another in a bond that stands all limitations including space and time.

Caring for What’s Yours

The Prophetﷺ, God bless his soul and grant him peace, named everything from his camels to his drinking cup. Imam Fode elaborates on an understanding that everything from plants to mountains have souls [4]. As khalifahs (inheritors), our role is to recognize and care for creation in our possession – both animate and inanimate. It is a sign of gratitude that will yield them lasting and valuable to this life and the next. This is success.

Soul-Level Connection

The most important soul-level agreement is that of your own, where love is the master key. Without that, it may be a challenge to connect with any other. Those most commonly considered when discussing these relationships in the context of Quran and Prophetic Tradition can be broken down into three categories:

1) Soul companion(s)- those whose lives and purpose cross paths undeniably. For Moses these were his bani, or tribe. Jesus had 12 close companions known as hawariyoon, most them fishermen. God states about them in Quran:

Then when Jesus came to know of their disbelief, he said, ‘Who will be my helpers in God’s cause?’ Al-Hawariyoon (the disciples) replied, ‘We are the helpers of God; we believe in God, so bear witness that we submit to God.’”

[The Quran, 3:52]

The Arabic translates to ‘those of White clothes’, signifying purify. The root hawrya has origins in Ethiopian meaning “to go,” signifying one that is sent [5]. They illustrate to us that the best soul companions are those who support us in calling to oneness.

It’s beautiful to note, whereas Moses had a clan-like family, Jesus had more of what we’d call “the homies” today. The completion, our Prophetﷺ, called his associates sahaba, literally just companions or friends.

May God be pleased with them all.

2) Twin flame(s)- closely tied with the reality of Bayt al Mamur and zilla, those whose souls are identical beyond mere serendipity. Not to be confused with codependency or mere passionately alike souls, this relationship is harder to put into words, as when it’s recognized, it’s undeniable. In other words, those who know, know.

3) Life Partner(s)- those soulmates, twin flames, or a combination thereof who were written to share this life as romantic partners, most often procreating. A prominent example exists in Sayyidina Khadijah, who had more than business to offer The Prophetﷺ with 2 previous marriages under her belt… the qualifications for her kunya (nickname) “al Kubara” (The Great).

She was confident and assertive, clear in her proposal to him. She had a strong internal compass; even if she didn’t know better was coming, she accepted union and children before him. She still had standards as she rejected many eligible bachelors before The Prophetﷺ. The majority say she married him at 40 but some opinions say she was 25 as he was. Sayyidina Khadijah was what we would call a billionaire today. She saw Truth through a test most fail: wealth.

Accepting, open-minded, and the first believer, she would hike long distances to take food to him in his contemplation cave….sometimes with the kids. She also went with a cold bed weeks at a time. The warmth when he returned lit up the city.

Beyond building a home together, she WAS a home for the beloved of Allah. She gifted his only blood lineage through Sayyidina Fatima. The list goes on.

The Prophet ﷺ reminisced: “she believed in me when no one else did.” Try to bring the feeling they shared to heart when he came to her, disturbed, after the first revelation saying “zamilooni,” (cover me). Not knowing details of their home life, together, it forces the heart to fill in the blanks. Long after her passing the Prophet yearned for her in a way that put the most appealing wives to jealousy over “that elderly woman” [6]. Learning and embodying details about her and the intricacies of their interactions make for lasting bonds. May everyone taste something of this Divine love.

Achieving Reciprocity in Soul-Agreements

Aman asked the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ: “When will the Hour be established O Allah’s Messenger?” The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ asked, “What have you prepared for it?” The man said, “I haven’t prepared for it much of prayers or fast or alms, but I love Allah and His Messenger.” The Prophet ﷺ said, “You will be with those who you love.”

In another narration, a man came up to the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and asked “What do you say of a man who loves a certain group of people but cannot be of them?” To this, Muhammad ﷺ replied; “A person will be with whom they love” [6].

Because there’s no difference between present and future tense in Arabic, this also extends to mean “the person is with the one they love.” This may be a hard truth pill to swallow for the materially focused. For people of the heart, it’s a done deal.

Affirming this means releasing the need to control outcomes because there is a faith that regardless of circumstance, means a reunion is bound to happen. There isn’t worry over the other’s destination and doings (read: compulsion). With a focus on bettering our own soul and seeking the pleasure of Allah and/or paradise, we’ll inevitably be joined with our soul partner(s).

May The Divine make us among the party of the beloved, our Prophet ﷺ.

Releasing Blockages

Harmonizing relationships without losing yourself requires discipline and focus on our own soul. It’s worthwhile to note potential blockages only because in a world dominated by cause-and-effect, variety keeps us interested. We may be emotionally unavailable, co-dependently inclined, meet too soon, confuse lust with love, project or take on others’ emotions and thoughts and/or be written as soul friends but not life partners, etc. The best way to stay in tune with the flow of your life trajectory is:

1) Set clear, firm intentions on The Divine. Focusing on the limitless releases limitations painlessly. By frequently staying conscious of the expansive nature of The Creator, we become receptive to other, minor intents, and stop illusions of “not enough, too late,” etc.

2) Release expectations.

No compulsion is there in religion. Uprightness has already been clarified from error.”

[The Quran, 2:256]

This happens naturally in step one; however, it is helpful to revisit on its own. We release expectations by identifying them whenever we feel tension over something that “should be,” and replacing the “should” with thankfulness for what is and even the possibility of more.

3) Listen to kashf (intuition). It is better to have no thought through meditation than to clutter the mind with a forced “positivity.” Praying, making duaa etc are useful regardless; however, the speed they occur is more noticeable when receptive to our inner wisdom.

4) Be aware of tawfiq (synchronicity). Be careful of dismissing anything as “by chance.” There is no need to make a hoopla of it, just say alhamdulillah for any alignments in your intent and others as they occur. It is especially recommended to write them down from dreams and in waking states because sometimes the synchronicity may not become noticeable except over long periods of time.

The Universal Soul

For seekers hoping to advance along the spiritual path, a guide/teacher can be considered a soulmate in the sense that their souls have been bound by bayah in the previous life and often this one. It is said “when the student is ready, the teacher appears.” This principle most broadly applies to the universal soul, the Prophetﷺ, who represents the potential for a complete and Godly character in us all. Regardless of the type, we all have soulmates in our lives; even a single soulmate in a lifetime is a blessing worth nine.


[1] “Platonic- purely spiritual; free from sensual desire, especially in a relationship between two persons of the opposite sex.” 

[2] De Amore, Les Belles Lettres, 2012.

[3] Albany Institute file:///C:/Users/M/Downloads/TheStoryofIsisandOsirisText%20of%20Story.pdf.

[4] Rejuvenation of The Soul.

[5] Selections from the Ḳur-án, Commonly Called, in England, the Koran: With With an Interwoven Commentary edited by Edward William Lane, George Sale, J. Madden, 1843.

[6] “The Prophet’s next beloved, A’ishah, recorded: ‘Although I had never met Khadijah, I was never more jealous of anyone than her.’ Once, when Khadijah’s sister Halah came to visit the Prophet (P.B.U.H), and called from outside for permission to enter, he trembled, being reminded of Khadijah, for the two sisters had very similar voices. ‘It must be Halah,’ he said. A’ishah said, ‘Why do you keep thinking of that elderly woman who has been dead for so long, when Allah has given you such good wives?’ ‘No, no, no,’ the Prophet (P.B.U.H) answered, ‘I was given no finer wife than she- She believed in me when no one else believed me; when they denied me she became a Muslim; when no-one would help me, she was my help. I had my children from her.’ And he asserted, ‘Allah gave me my love for her.’ After that, A’ishah resolved never to take hurt from Khadijah’s memory. He grieved for her for a long time, and was eventually persuaded to take other wives by his friends, and especially by his aunt Khawlah, who was distressed to see him so sad and lonely” (The Muslim Marriage Guide, Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood).

[7] Sahih al-Bukhari 6168 Book 78, Hadith 194.

Maryam Miller (@soulmatesis) is the author of  a satire about soulmates.

Whilst you’re here…

The Muslim Vibe is a non-profit media platform aiming to inspire, inform and empower Muslims like you. Our goal is to provide a space for young Muslims to learn about their faith as well as news stories affecting them, so we can reclaim the Muslim narrative from the mainstream.

Your support will help us achieve this goal, and enable us to produce more original content. Your support can help us in the fight against Islamophobia, by building a powerful platform for young Muslims who can share their ideas, experiences and opinions for a better future.

Please consider supporting The Muslim Vibe, from as little as £1 – it will only take a minute. Thank you and Jazakallah.

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